Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am
We agree to you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let your ex glare at me for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.
Like i stated, i wouldnt go out of my option to make an effort to communicate with her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:50 am
And in addition, just what can you want to bet that he’s feeding their brand new gf your whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why they talk most of the time? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?
Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july
I am able to realise why you’d believe means, it isnt nice to not be liked, but We browse the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, maybe maybe not the ex-BF relationship that is current. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can just only get a grip on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and being inconvenient. New GF to his relationship is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls need not be buddies after all. It might you need to be an additional url to the man for the LW, that is attempting to cut ties that are emotional.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:54 am
Thats a great point for sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I familiar with be buddies with this specific set of guys whom accustomed have such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy to them after a month or more and I’d get actually astonished, cos they seemed therefore normal in my opinion? Then we realised it wasn’t the girls, its the people. As well as the girls had been all people that are just normal, you understand, wished to determine if they’d a boyfriend or not…….
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am
Yea. Its love, as soon as that takes place enough times- what’s the denominator that is common? YOU MIGHT BE!!
I do feel detrimental to this GF that is new. She deserves to own a guy’s attention that is full. And she deserves a man who isnt hung through to his ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless dreams intensely about her and stuff. Thats messed up! And she probably hates the LW because she’s being told by the man a couple of crap about her. Its just all incorrect. The whole thing.
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:09 am
Personally I think bad she needs to look out for herself for her too, but. Its difficult being the very first gf after a long relationship, but thats why many people go into these with their eyes spacious. Oh and the man has to“ stop droppingBut i’ve a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the means the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he is just looking for a reaction everytime he says it that he has a GF. He wishes the LW to be like “well I don’t care if you have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and get back to me”
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:27 am
Yea, its like whenever i was in highschool and me personally and my boyfriend would split up almost every other week, in which he would “accidently” text me personally or something like that just therefore we would fight and acquire right back together.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and acquire straight right back together”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 10:05 am
I’ve said right here a great deal, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other means. I understand so lots of men whom utilize that word to hide because of their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
We don’t understand why individuals would phone somebody crazy within the beginning. I simply state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The simple fact which you place a “crazy” label onto it, makes me think maybe you are one that loves to stir the muck.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, if you’re ready to phone someone crazy, wouldn’t which means that you may be kinda crazy also?
Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july
Therefore real! As soon as the” that is“crazy away, Im operating the other means. I do believe it had been stated above- whenever you attract the crazy, the typical denominator is constantly YOU, friend.
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:21 am july
To be honest, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this happened to her she probably could be upset about this too, yet somehow she continues to answer this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all of this bull shit.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 10:26 am july
Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk for this woman because your simply planning to cause drama. You need to just recognize he’s maybe not your boyfriend as well as that you know he has a girlfriend is making you a bad guy in this too though you still like his attention, the fact.
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:35 am
That is a point that is great you dudes. I didnt consider it like that.
So LW, if you truly do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, leave them alone!! Like eljay (I adore you, eljay) said, some one has got to end up being the adult in this case. You have to do it if he is not willing to be.
Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm
Amen bestie – we accept you about talking to your gf. That knows exactly just exactly what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their speaking so frequently, but whilst the relationship is none of the company, the fact the LW in addition to brand new gf have actually met now i believe enables the LW some leeway. That I had heard about and wanted to get along with (I’m going to assume that the LW wants that? ) and it went horribly, I might reach out and go, hey, I’m so sorry that went badly if I had been in a situation where a friend brought someone around. She does not necessarily need to state, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend was saying _____ in my experience and he’s the main one calling, and then he explained you had been fine with this specific, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I became beneath the impression you’re fine with this being buddies, but i recently noticed I’m perhaps maybe not ok with your being friends either, so that it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:37 am
I wouldn’t keep in touch with the gf about any of it. I would want is their ex of 3 years reaching out to me if I were dating someone for two months the last thing. And merely to inform you which you respect her relationship? I would personally think you had been bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Just just Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex lover you don’t would you like to hear from him for a time, then keep them alone. Actually they probably won’t workout because you’re nevertheless within the photo (which does not do great things for an innovative new relationship), but allow them work that out on their own.
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:39 am
Oh in addition, that we leave immediately if I were the new girlfriend and my bf and I ran into his ex at a bar I would also demand. It is therefore uncomfortable. Every person pretends they can be” that is“mature stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay whenever your SO’s ex appears, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of 36 months.
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:28 am july